Cruelty of adolescents: causes and prevention
The history of mankind is full of terrible events. Torture, war, violence against children and women, neglect of the elderly are only some examples of the cruelty that accompanies the development of every society. People pay great attention to overcoming aggression, considering it one of the most important social problems. So, all sorts of psychosocial technologies are created that are aimed at preventing people from being aggressive. In our country there is also a problem of teenage cruelty. Prevention of aggressiveness of children is an objective necessity.
As the weakest and least protected members of society, babies are the first to fall victim to ill-treatment in various institutions and families. After a short period of time, society paid for it with a vengeance. From the article we learn what is cruelty of adolescents, and also how it can be adjusted.
Cult of rage
There is a huge amount of facts that confirm that even in normal families, angry children sometimes grow up. Therefore, family well-being does not guarantee that the child will extend a helping hand to the needy, if necessary. The cruelty of adolescent causes is mostly deeper. Often it arises because of school education. Not every teacher today will go on to find out the true cause of the conflict between the pupils of his class.
In a child, the character manifests itself in early childhood. A class teacher can easily identify who is a leader, who is a "whipping boy", and also who often shows aggression towards other people. Do not ignore the heated atmosphere in the class.
There are sad results of how the student's persecution of his classmates can end. You can not pretend that nothing has happened. There is the possibility of timely intervention even to save the child's life. Many teenagers, feeling themselves outcasts, are on the verge of suicide. Violent children begin to poison the child, which is absolutely unacceptable. This is a situation that goes out of the way. It is necessary to apply all pedagogical skills in order to correct this situation.
When a child sees that nobody is paying attention to ill-treatment, bullying becomes even more terrible. It is necessary to collect a class as often as possible for an explanatory conversation, and also to try to find common points of contact and interests. Often such control gives positive results.
Specificity and causes of aggression
The personality of the child is formed in the environment surrounding it, and not independently. Particularly important is the role of small groups, where a difficult teenager interacts with other people. Initially it concerns this family. Different authors identify the types of disadvantaged families in which the cruelty of teenage girls (and even boys) is manifested. These classifications supplement, and do not contradict, sometimes repeating each other.
A combination of factors
It should be noted that the combination of unfavorable psychological, biological, family and other social factors distorts the way of life of children. For them, a violation with surrounding people of emotional relations becomes characteristic. They fall under the great influence of a group of leaders, often forming antisocial values. The way of life, the culture of adolescents, the environment, the circle of communication and style contribute to the development of deviant behavior.
Negative microclimate in different families causes the emergence of rudeness, alienation, dislike of some of the adolescents, as well as the desire to do everything contrary to the will of the elders, to spite. This creates the preconditions for the emergence of demonstrative disobedience, destructive actions and aggressiveness.
Child psychologists and specialists around the world are trying to find out the reasons for the increased aggression, which girls and teenage boys are now exposed to. They come to the conclusion that in the family it is primarily the processes that contribute to the formation of the malice of the baby. Ironically, basically, its cause is parental blind love.
If, for example, parents patronize and protect their child, while not seeing the person and not appreciating his personality, he has a desire to prove in his heart and show that he is able to do something in his own way and himself. And on this path, girls and adolescent boys often commit aggressive acts toward people around them. In order to avoid this situation, the child should be given the right to choose, provide him with a personal space, while not losing control.
The second dangerous product of parental blind love is permissiveness, which no arguments can justify. The child has a feeling of impunity. Ignoring wrongdoing and fulfilling any whims will not help build a normal relationship, and also connect with other children. A little later, it will cause destructive and aggressive behavior, and the child will be called "a difficult teenager".
Almost all children are more sensitive to peer criticism than the arguments of their parents. The problem of a "bad company" always remains acute - an aggressive and insolent child is able to set an example and tone of behavior for a group of children, while the desire to match his style and internal dissonance only exacerbate the cruelty of adolescents.
The way out of this situation will be the gradual development of new interests and values: it is necessary to "probe" what exactly the child is interested in - sports, dancing, creativity, etc. He can devote more time to hobbies, where he will acquire other friends, in which he only needs to be encouraged.
Almost every schoolboy came across at least once with the most common difficulties - a misunderstanding of teachers or rejection by classmates. A child, and even more so a beginner, thus can become an object of bullying and an outcast from other students for various reasons - he may be an adherent of another religion, belong to another nationality, be stupid, intelligent, with features of appearance. Cruelty of teenagers does not know the boundaries, they can treat their peers unjustly only because of their dissimilarity at all others.
On the same occasion, they may be attacked by some teachers. The scandalous sensational film "School" by Valeria Gai Germanika is just about the difficulties of today's institutions of secondary education.
The cruelty of adolescents has grown to frightening proportions in the XX-XXI centuries. Experts see the reason for this in the availability and distribution of Internet and television. The most exciting and popular films necessarily contain scenes of violence that strongly affect the child's unformed psyche. Various computer games involve killings and battles for winning. Videos that show debauchery, irresponsibility and rudeness on the Internet are freely available.
Our children were bored "just" to fight - it is necessary to remove it on the phone, after which the video put on the network. What to do with it? The child's attention is shifted to other, constructive occupations, and also to give arguments in defense of the fact that cruelty and aggressiveness are not "cool" at all.
A difficult teenager: identifying
Prevention of cruelty in the teenage environment begins with the identification of the emotional and mental state of each child by questioning students. Using this procedure, you can find out how often a teenager has to deal with an unjust or cruel attitude to himself, and other issues.
To identify this problem, you need to carefully monitor the behavior of a teenager when he comes from school. You should pay attention to minor, slight changes in his usual behavior. Every mother will see if suddenly the child's desire to go to school has disappeared, that he sometimes comes in ragged things, his appetite is gone. These are signs of a problem. You should talk with him heart to heart. Of course, it will be very difficult to bring him to such a conversation. Not every family has a trusting relationship. It should be from the early years of his daughter or son to show that parents are the best and most reliable friends.
When a child conflicts with peers, finding a way out together will be much easier. If he does not want to share, it is necessary to try to show benevolence and caution. Do not try to extract information under pressure. Demonstrate to him that you are on his side entirely. Probably, in this case he will find it necessary to ask for help, to reveal himself.
The child in this case is afraid that only exacerbate its difficult situation with such revelations with relatives. He believes that the desire to tell all parents is an indicator of a weak character. It is necessary to convince him that this is not so.
Together you can choose an adequate solution, find the right way out of the conflict. Over children's problems do not mock, stating that this is all nonsense. By such an attitude, a vulnerable young soul can be greatly offended.
News sites have recently been literally filled with various materials about cases of increased aggression in adolescents. In this case, the abundance of computer games with various elements of violence and violence is reflected not in the best way on the child's psyche. A large number of teenagers after being beaten by their classmates tried to end their lives. In addition, such scenes, as already mentioned above, are filmed and put on public display on the Internet.
How to avoid aggression?
Teenage and child cruelty has already become a specific social phenomenon. At this time, the correction of aggressive behavior of adolescents involves the involvement of all public institutions. At the same time, you need to start with the family, continue - in the kindergarten and school, then draw sections and circles, and graduate already by universities and work collectives.
It should be noted that violence with the use of special cruelty is a widely occurring concept in criminal law. Consequently, adolescents, in particular those who have reached the age of criminal responsibility, can be punished for their misdeeds.
But the majority of cruel adolescents are not sociopaths and sadists, which means they are able to improve without treatment and correction facilities. They need the support and assistance of adults, parents and teachers in the first place, then mentors and coaches, conscious senior comrades.
Of course, it's not enough to punish the whole group of violent violators, but only their leader, especially if he is an obvious sociopath or a sadist.
With other children and their parents, it is necessary to conduct preventive serious conversations, as well as to take control of the authorities.
In addition, to improve the emotional and psychological family climate, to help teenagers and children overcome psychological inner problems, it would be good to have a family counseling course with an experienced psychologist.
And finally ...
Adolescents need guidance from an adult who must have authority, charisma, inner strength. In archaic societies, the brightest and most interesting people were always nominated for the role of mentors. But now the pedagogical sphere does not always cope with this task. Fortunately, there are also leaders of circles, coaches, teachers who have the qualities of a mentor, but they are fewer and fewer.
It is worth noting that aggression is not necessarily bad. It provides an opportunity to protect their territory, their offspring, to fight for life, to achieve their goal, to overcome difficulties. When the aggression functions normally, it works like water, twisting the millstone of life.