The cruelty of adolescents: causes and prevention
Human history is full of gruesome events. Torture, war, violence against children and women, the neglect of the elderly — these are just some examples of cruelty that accompanies the development of any society. People are paying a lot of attention to overcoming the aggression, considering it one of the most important social problems. So are all sorts of psycho-social technology, which are aimed at warning people of aggression. In our country also has the problem of teenage violence. Prevention of aggressiveness of children is an objective necessity.
As the weakest and least protected members of society, kids are the first victims of abuse in various institutions, the family. After a short period of time to the society for this they pay with interest. From the article we learn what cruelty of teenagers, and also how you can adjust.
The cult of malice
There are plenty of facts that prove that in perfectly normal families sometimes grow angry children. Therefore, family welfare does not guarantee that the child, if necessary, extend a helping hand to the needy. The cruelty of teenagers causes has basically deeper. Often it arises from the school of education. Not every teacher today will focus on finding the true causes of conflict between pupils in their class.
The child character starts to emerge in early childhood. Class teacher it is easy to identify which pupils leader who is "whipping boy", and who towards other people often shows aggression. Do not ignore the class emerged in the tense atmosphere.
Known the sad results of how are able to end harassment of student by his classmates. You can't pretend that nothing happened. There is a possibility of a timely intervention even to save a child's life. Many teenagers, feeling like outcasts, are on the edge of suicide. Cruel children begin to poison a child, which is absolutely unacceptable. This is a situation coming out of the ordinary. You must make every pedagogical skills in order for this situation to be corrected.
When a child sees that the ill-treatment no one pays any attention, the bullying become more terrible. You need to collect the class as often as possible to discussions and to try to find common ground and interests. It often happens that such control yields positive results.
The specifics and reasons for the manifestation of aggressiveness
The child's personality formed in the environment surrounding him, not yourself. Particularly important in this role of small groups, where a troubled teenager interacts with other people. Initially it concerns family. Various authors identify the types of dysfunctional families, which reveal the cruelty of teenage girls (and boys too). These classifications are complementary and not conflicting, sometimes repeating each other.
A combination of factors
It should be noted that the combination of adverse psychological, biological, family and other social factors distort the lifestyle of the children. Is characterized by violation with others emotional relationships. They fall under the great influence of the group leaders, often forming asocial values. Lifestyle, culture, adolescents, environment, social circle and style contribute to the development of deviant behavior.
Negative microclimate in different families causes the appearance of rudeness, alienation, dislike some part of teenagers and desire to do everything contrary to the will of the elders, out of spite. This creates preconditions for the emergence of demonstrative disobedience, destructive behavior and aggression.
Child psychologists and experts around the world are trying to find out the reasons of increased aggression, which is now affected girls and adolescent boys. They come to the conclusion that the family is primarily the processes that contribute to the bitterness of the baby. Oddly enough, mostly cause becomes the parent of blind love.
If, for example, parents watch over and protect her child and not seeing the person and not appreciating his personality, in his heart is born a desire to prove and show that he is able to do something differently myself. And in this way girls and boys-teenagers often commit aggressive actions towards the people around them. To avoid this situation, the child should be given the right of choice, to give him personal space, while not losing control.
The absence of prohibitions
The second threat a product of parental love is considered blind permissiveness, which no arguments can not justify. The child experiences a sense of impunity. Ignoring the misconduct and the execution of any whims will not help to build normal relations and to communicate with other children. Later it will cause destructive and aggressive behavior, and the child will begin to call a "difficult teenager".
Almost all children criticism of peers are perceived more sensitive than the arguments of the parents. Always sharp there is a problem of "bad company" – aggressive and arrogant child is able to set an example and tone behavior of the group of children, the desire to fit his style and internal dissonance only aggravate the cruelty of teenagers.
The solution to this situation is the gradual development of new interests and values: it is necessary to identify what interests the child – sports, dancing, creativity, etc. He can devote more time to Hobbies, there will have other friends, what should be encouraged.
Almost every student has faced at least once with the most common challenges is a lack of understanding of teachers and rejection by classmates. A child, especially a beginner, thus, may become the target of bullying and an outcast from the other students for various reasons – he may be an adherent of another religion, to belong to another nationality, to be stupid, smart, with features of appearance. The cruelty of teenagers knows no boundaries, they can unfairly treat their peers just because of their dissimilarity with all the rest.
For the same reason they may be attacked and by part of the teachers. The acclaimed controversial film "School" Valeria Gai Germanicus tells the story about the difficulties of the present institutions of secondary education.
The cruelty of teenagers have increased to frightening levels in XX-XXI centuries. Experts see the reason for this is the availability and spread of the Internet and television. The most exciting and popular movies always contain scenes of violence, impact on children's unformed psyche. Various computer games involve killing and battles to win. Videos that show the corruption, irresponsibility and rudeness on the Internet is in the public domain.
Our children bored "just" to fight – you need to be sure it is removed on the phone after which the video spread in the network. What to do with this? The child's attention to shift to other, constructive employment, and also give arguments in defense of the fact that violence and aggression is not "cool."
Troubled teen: identification
Prevention of violence in adolescents begins with identification of the emotional and mental state of each child by questioning the students. With such procedure it is possible to find out, how often do Teens have to deal with unjust or cruel treatment of them, and other issues.
To identify this problem it is necessary to monitor closely the behavior of the teenager when he comes home from school. You should pay attention to the insignificant, the slightest change in his usual behavior. Every mother will see if suddenly the child disappeared, the desire to be in school, he sometimes comes in ragged things, I lost my appetite. These are signs of a problem. Should talk to him heart to heart. Of course, bring it to this conversation will be very difficult. Not every family has a trust relationship. It follows from an early age your daughter or son to show that parents are the best and most reliable friends.
In the conflict of the child with peers to find a way out together will be much easier. If he does not want to share, you should try to show kindness and care. You should not pry under the pressure of information. Show him that you are on his side entirely. Probably in this case he deems it necessary to ask for help, to open up.
The child in this case, fears that will only aggravate the difficult situation these revelations with loved ones. He believes that the desire to tell all parents is a sign of a weak character. You should convince him that it is not.
You will be able to choose an adequate solution to find the correct way out of this conflict. On children's problems do not mock me, claiming that it's all nonsense. This attitude vulnerable young heart can hurt much.
News sites recently literally full of various materials on cases of increased aggression in adolescents. The abundance of computer games with elements of violence and violence does not reflect well on the psyche of the child. A lot of Teens after being beaten by classmates tried to commit suicide. In addition, such scenes, as mentioned above, shot on camera and posted on public display in the Internet.
How to avoid aggression?
Adolescent and children's cruelty has already become a kind of social phenomenon. At the present time correction of aggressive behavior of teenagers requires the incorporation of all public institutions. To begin with the family, to continue in the kindergarten and school, then to draw circles and workshops, and to complete higher education and work collectives.
It is worth noting that the violence cruelty is a widely used concept in criminal law. Therefore, adolescents, especially below the age of criminal responsibility for their misdeeds can be punished.
But the number of violent teenagers are not sociopaths and sadists, and therefore, they are able to improve without treatment and correctional facilities. They need support and help adults, parents and teachers in the first place, then mentors and coaches, conscious elders.
Of course I need not punish the whole group have committed violence against other children, but only their leader, especially if he is a clear sociopath or a sadist.
Other children and their parents need to conduct serious preventive conversation, and also to take control of authorities.
In addition, to improve the emotional and psychological climate of the family, to help teenagers and children to overcome psychological internal problems it would be good to get an experienced psychologist in the course of family consultation.
Teenagers need the guidance of an adult who should have the authority, charisma, inner strength. In archaic societies, no wonder always was nominated for the role of mentors the brightest, interesting people. But now the teaching field copes with this task not always. Fortunately, there are more heads of clubs, coaches, teachers possessing the qualities of a mentor, except that they are smaller.
It should be noted that aggression is not necessarily a bad thing. It provides an opportunity to protect its territory, offspring, fight for life, to achieve goals, to overcome difficulties. When aggression is functioning properly, it works like water, twisting the millstone of life.