Raising the daughter of the father and mother
All parents are divided into two categories: one from the moment of pregnancy, learn a variety of methods of education from different authors, others, the same children grow like grass, completely left to themselves. In fact, you should observe the golden mean. A small child has a subjective view of the world around him. And the task of mom and dad - not only to teach the baby to dress and cross the road to green light. Parents should share their own experiences and try to develop a child's aesthetic taste and character qualities that can help him in adulthood. Raising a daughter is not an easy task. We bring to your attention a list of useful recommendations that are relevant at all times.
The main thing is the microclimate in the family
Folk wisdom says that the main thing in any family is love and respect. These words have been tested for centuries and there is no reason to doubt their correctness. Before planning the education of a daughter, the couple must establish and harmonize their own relationships. Quarrels, misunderstandings and inattention of parents to each other negatively affect the child's psyche. A common mistake of many women is to try to keep the family for the sake of their daughter. Living "separately" from her husband, but under one roof, you can deceive a 2-3-year-old child, but at the age of five your deception will be revealed. Children do not understand much, but they perfectly see and feel emotions. Moreover, it is from our parents that we all learn the matrimonial life. And if the child grew up in a "problem" family, the probability is high that, in adulthood, he will repeat the mistakes of the older generation by marrying.
The family is one whole
Love and a sense of security are the important needs of every baby. Participate in the life of the child from birth. Teach your daughter to share her experiences and problems. Treat with equal respect and attention to a broken neighbor toy or failure at a kindergarten competition, and then in ten years you will know who your child is communicating with, whether he fell into a bad company and whether he gets a relationship with the opposite sex . Many psychologists advise to arrange family advice. This is a great way to emphasize the cohesion of the family and enable the child to feel self-sufficient. Questions can be discussed any: from plans for the weekend before moving or choosing an educational institution. Teach the child to compare the various options and give reason for their own opinion.
A woman should be feminine ... in moderation!
The upbringing of a daughter should include the development of femininity in a small person. Virtues of the beautiful half of humanity are calm, prudence, tenderness and gentleness. Delicately hint to the child about it on occasion. But from the hackneyed phrases like "you can not, you're a girl ..." it is better to move away. On the contrary, do not forget to remind the little girl that men and women are equal in their rights, that the fair sex can now build a career, engage in science or creativity. As for the development of tenderness and sensitivity, involve the girl in caring for animals and younger children. If you do not have a pet and have only one child in the family, encourage communication with the kids of relatives and friends, go to the zoo, shelter for animals or feed birds in the park.
The father is the image of the ideal and closest man for every child. Many are confident that the greatest degree of communication with the pope is important for boys. But this is not so, girls are also drawn to their fathers. Traditional qualities expected by children from a male parent are discretion, strength, and reliability. In our country, patriarchal families are the most common, where the father is also the main authority. The pope in the education of his daughter should play the role of a just mentor and advocate. However, the child should be guarded to the best extent: the father can and should check the children's room before going to bed, but if the child has conflicts with his peers, his task is to talk and give some useful tips that can help resolve this situation.
Tips for single fathers
It would seem that it can be more difficult for a man than to raise a daughter without the help of his wife? However, life is different, and if for some reason you become a single father, most importantly - do not despair. The rule is the first and most important: women also have their secrets. It is unacceptable for the father to talk with a teenage girl about the physiology of the female body, intimate life and other such things. Of course, you can not completely omit this topic. It is very good if a girl who is brought up without a mother will have a friend in the person of an adult woman. It can be a relative (grandmother, aunt), mother of a close friend or teacher. Encourage such communication, if you are sure of the integrity of the woman chosen by the child.
The role of the father in the upbringing of the daughter changes significantly if he educates her alone. Girls are important tactile contacts and all kinds of expressions of love and tenderness. To embrace a child is necessary every day, and preferably as often as possible. To teach tenderness and caring, as well as to form the true image of a woman in this case, too, will have a man. Remember: educational institutions and peers will not replace families, education should begin at home.
If at home only mom ...
It is believed that raising a child to a single mother is much easier than a lonely father. This is not entirely true. Women, forced to raise children without spouses, take on the functions of both parents. Often these are some "steel ladies", exhausting themselves with work and paying insufficient attention and tenderness to the kids. The mother's upbringing in this case should be based on a scheme similar to the relationship in a full-fledged family. Do not be afraid to give something to a child. If the atmosphere in the house is calm and harmonious, the baby will not feel deprived. Do not focus the child's attention on how hard it is for you, give him enough time and attention.
The most important advice for all incomplete families is that it is impossible to form a negative image of the absent father in the mind of the girl. Answer all questions honestly and as neutrally as possible. Believe me, even in 3-4 years the child is able, if not understand, then accept the phrase "my dad and I decided to live separately". Do not say that the father is not a good person or left because he does not like the baby.
We form a true self-esteem
An important quality for a woman is self-love. Raising a daughter father and mother should include the development of adequate self-esteem. Teach your child to accept himself as he is. Tell the girl that she is beautiful, never criticize her appearance. The same applies to behavior and character in general. Compare the phrases "you're bad" and "you did bad, but you can fix it." Your task is not to chastise the child for all blunders and failures, but to teach how to do it right and better. Develop also the ability to easily experience failure and protect yourself and your interests.
Development should be comprehensive
Education of a minor daughter should include aesthetic development. Since early childhood, acquaint the child with works of art, go for walks in beautiful places and dress up. Choose interesting and colorful toys, tell exciting stories. And most importantly - talk as much as possible with the child. Already in 3-4 years old baby - a full interlocutor, you can discuss with her read fairy tales or what you saw on the walk. Organize interesting family leisure, travel or find some kind of a common hobby. The upbringing of the daughter must include the development of creative abilities, with the babies try to create in different techniques at home, and the child of school age can be written down in some club of interests.