How to survive adolescence
Adolescence begins approximately at the age of twelve and ends at eighteen. At the end of this stage all teenage boys, as a rule, fully formed personality and the process of individuation. The formation of his super-ego, that is, each has its own set of taboos, norms and values. In adolescence awaken hormones and biological transformation, which is the basis of all psychological changes.
This is a very rough time — start wet dreams and periods. All age periods of child development have their problems. They aktiviziruyutsya and become a factor, which then motivates the child. This means that the main background will be a conflict corresponding to the stage of development in which the child had difficulties. You should know, the more complex were the problems, the more they will influence the behavior of a teenager.
Due to the intensive restructuring of the hormones the body of a teenager begins to change. Develop secondary sex characteristics, because of which the child begins to feel anxiety. In some cases there is a rejection of one's own body. Not the shape of the ears, or any pimple can be a tragedy. Sometimes the power of rejection so strong that you may receive the thought of suicide.
Adolescence — a test given to each person. And the desire of fulfillment of unconscious desires is his main driving force. This is manifested in the common Central Masturbation. It combines the pleasure all phases. But the result is not important, but participation. For this reason, often the child does not bring the case to the end, causing alarm among parents.
In adolescence occurs deidealization parent objects. It is necessary for the formation of their own ego. If the parent was God, now he was a stranger. As a teenager deidealization parents in moral terms. The opinion of friends is getting bigger and more important than the opinion of parents. This period of negativism of the child, protects it from passive surrender to his parents, who, in turn, are subject to harsh criticism. Teenagers think their parents are boring and drab townsfolk.
Parents also have to put up with such behavior. But still they can make it so that the child was not under the influence of bad company. Parents must pick up child "reference group" (sports section, art school, music school, tour, club, dance Studio). Fluctuations between parents and peers will continue for a long time and the parent can only put up with presence in the lives of adolescent peer groups and that their opinions and ideas is much more important. Parent norms are gradually replaced by own, which the teenager accumulating experience of error and trial. For this reason, you need to give more often to make these mistakes.
Not to lose the trust of your child during adolescence is the primary goal of parents. After all, everyone has experienced this difficult and critical time. Many adolescents in this period are prone to risky and reckless actions, which they possibly should try to isolate.