How to survive the adolescent period
The adolescent period begins about twelve years, and ends at eighteen. At the end of this stage, in all adolescents, as a rule, the personality is completely formed and the process of individuation is completed. There is a formation of its super-ego, that is, each has its own set of taboos, norms and values. During the adolescent period hormones are activated and biological transformation, which is the basis of all psychological changes.
This is a very stormy time - begin the pollutions and monthly. All the age periods of a child's development have their own problems. Later they become more active and become a factor that then moves the child. This means that the main background will be a conflict that corresponds to the stage of development in which the child had difficulties. One should know, the more difficult the problems were, the more they will influence the behavior of the adolescent.
Because of the intensive adjustment of hormones, the body of a teenager begins to change. Sexual secondary signs develop, because of which the child begins to experience anxiety. In some cases, there is an unacceptance of one's own body. Not that shape of the ears or any pimple can become a tragedy. Sometimes the force of rejection is so strong that there may be a thought of suicide.
The adolescent period is a test given to every person. And the desire to fulfill unconscious desires is his main driving force. This manifests itself in a general central masturbation. It combines the pleasure received from all phases. But the main thing is not the result, but participation. For this reason, often the child does not bring the matter to an end, thus causing anxiety in the parents.
During the adolescence, de-idealization of the parental objects takes place. This is necessary for the formation of one's own ego. If before the parent was God, now he is a stranger. Also, a teenager de-ideals his parents morally. The opinion of friends becomes more significant and important than the opinion of the parents. During this period, the child's negativism protects him from passive surrender to his parents, who, in turn, are severely criticized. Teenagers consider their parents to be boring and gray inhabitants.
Parents only have to put up with this behavior. But still they can do so that the child does not come under the influence of a bad company. Parents should pick up the child "reference group" (sports section, art school, music school, tour club, dance studio). The fluctuations between parents and peers will last for a long time and the parent can only accept the presence of a group of peers in the life of a teenager, and also because their opinion and thoughts are more important. Parental norms are gradually being replaced by one's own ones, which the teenager develops with experience of mistakes and trials. For this reason, the child should be given as often as possible to make these mistakes.
Do not lose the trust of your child during the teenage period - this is the main goal of the parents. After all, everyone experienced this difficult and critical time. Many adolescents in this period are prone to risky and rash actions, from which they should be tried to fence off whenever possible.