What is the son's wife called?
Everyone has relatives, but not everyone knows that several levels of kinship are expected. It is also interesting that, in addition to the familiar names of kinship relations, there are also ancient names, some of which in modern life received a different meaning.
Steps of kinship
- The first stage of kinship is the relationship between the daughter and the father, the son and the mother, the son and the father, the daughter and the mother.
- The second step in the relationship is the relationship between grandchildren and grandparents.
- To the third degree of kinship relations are equaled those between great-grandchildren and grandfathers and great-grandmothers, and also the relationship between nephews and aunts with uncles.
- For the fourth degree of kinship cousins and brothers, nephews (nieces) and cousins grandfather and grandmother are suitable.
- By the fifth step of the kinship relationship, the connection between the cousin's nephew (nephew) and the cousin uncle (aunt) is equated.
- By the sixth degree of kinship are related ties between second cousins and sisters.
The modern scheme of kinship ties is often limited only by the kinship of the first and second steps, but we simply forget about the status of other close and familiar people. For example, one and the same young woman can be given four different statuses, depending on who exactly this status appropriates: son, daughter, daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law. And not everyone knows how the wife of her son is called. It would seem that if the conversation is on the phone, your interlocutor, after hearing such different names, will think that there are different women on the other end of the wire, but in practice she is alone.
Who is the daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also daughter and son? A son is considered to be a son-in-law with regard to his father-in-law (the young one calls her husband's father). The son is an old name, he used to say his son's wife. Such a concept has survived, perhaps only in those families that honor Old Russian traditions. A daughter in Russia was the wife of her son, only a father-in-law, that is, her husband's father. At present, traditions are changed, and the daughter-in-law is called the mother-in-law and father-in-law, that is, both parents of the husband. The daughter-in-law is the wife of the son in relation to his mother.
Transformation of traditions
If you follow the old customs, the wife of the son could be called his mother and father differently, the father had the right to call the young daughter-in-law, and call his mother a daughter-in-law. In the age of computer technology, the woman who entered into a legal marriage with a man becomes a sister-in-law for all his numerous relatives. Both sisters and brothers of men have the right to call the legal wife of a man by this name. It will also have such status for all the husbands of the sisters, as well as the wives of the brothers of their spouse.
The position of the daughter-in-law in a harmonious family
In families where they try to maintain a cordial relationship in which reverence, mutual understanding, sincere care, love, and the spouse's parents reign, it is not expected that young women will be divided into their own daughters and those who marry their sons, that is, outsiders from the point of view of direct kinship of girls.
That is why in such families, often from the mother-in-law, such appeals as "daughter, daughter" to his son's wife sound. In the family for the daughter-in-law or daughter-in-law, the role of the true keeper of the family hearth is assumed. This woman not only gives birth, brings up a child (children), but also must maintain family relations with other family members of her spouse. It is the daughter-in-law that is considered to be the link in the establishment of relations between her relatives and her husband's relatives. A difficult task is entrusted to the daughter-in-law, not all young women cope with it, but it's not for nothing that they say that the wife is the neck and the husband is the head. If the wife wants, she will always find ways to establish relations between relatives, creating a real family hearth, will cultivate family relations, educate their children in such traditions.
A gentle welcome - a harmonious family
It is important how the new family members accept the direct relatives of the young (of course, it is important how the father of the son's wife and his mother will influence the relationship, however, the residence of the daughter-in-law in the husband's house was accepted in Russia, so the degree of influence on the relations of her parents is slightly less). During the formation of a young family, everyone should be tactful in relations with the wife of a brother or son, while the daughter-in-law must remain patient, be benevolent, show respect for the mother and father of her husband. If the mother-in-law "accepts" the daughter-in-law, dreams of her son being really happy in the marriage, she will try to share her experience with the new relative, accept her as her own daughter. In the traditions of Ancient Rus was the transfer of all knowledge, the experience of housekeeping, the wisdom of female family happiness on the part of the mother of the son to her daughter-in-law. A newly-made wife should understand that all the advice that her husband's mother gives her is a desire to protect young people from a multitude of mistakes, rather than banal interference in their personal lives.