Tantrums in children
Tantrums in children faced by virtually all parents. Many of them sometimes lose all patience and have absolutely no idea how to be in this situation. Because of that, and ask questions about what to do if a child throws tantrums. Let's deal.
Tantrums in children often begin at the age of 1.5-2 years. The kid who just yesterday was a sweet little angel turns into a cranky stubborn, can drive a parent to distraction. It is fair to say that this behavior of the child shows not always. Very often tantrums in children are provoked by poor health, fatigue, emotional overload. For example, if the baby doesn't feel well, he can throw a fit literally out of the blue, while in the normal state could be easily distracted or switch to something else. So shouldn't be tired, hungry or sick baby to the store (in the mail, etc.). It is also very important to dose emotions and impressions, even the most positive. If entertainment is too much (for example, puppet theater, and then a trip to the zoo or rides), toddler can start to act up just from emotion, but rather from emotional fatigue.
Very often children have tantrums happen in public places: shops, public transport. In this case, parents have a particularly hard time, because they are exposed to condemnation of others. The most important thing in this situation is to calm down, stop psyching yourself out and not pay attention to the people, advising to take the kid on hands, give to the Pope or to buy a kid a car. It is best to bring (to bear) the child on the street and give him a chance to recover. However, to scold him in this state just pointless, for a start, the kid needs to calm down.
Tantrums in children is not only tears and screams. Many kids are good with their reception riding on the floor, fall down and knock the legs, not forgetting voice. Some of the toddlers go even further and break on the floor or the wall head, yank hair, scratch my face and even cause vomiting (the latter, fortunately, happens rarely). Sometimes babies during crying lips turning blue. In principle, tantrums in children — the phenomenon quite normal, but if they happen too often and unjustly, and are accompanied by any alarming symptoms, you should show your baby a competent neurologist.
If a child throws a tantrum, what should parents do? As already mentioned, the first step is to calm down and remember that through it pass almost all of the toddlers. Secondly, you need to deprive your baby of the opportunity to play to an audience (ideally best to leave it alone, if that's even possible). Because persuasion in this situation, virtually powerless, the child just can't hear. And even after the kid will calm down, you should talk to him, analyze his behavior, voicing his feelings ("you're upset because we didn't buy the car"), and to explain that such a display of emotion is unacceptable ("even if you were upset, to shout in the street should not have"). From time to time to play scenes with favorite toys baby, and pronouncing the situation and showing him how to act in a particular case (right and wrong).
Tantrums in children can try to warn. As soon as the baby begins to act up, it needs to redirect to the execution of any actions ("look, a beetle", "bring me a juice box"). Some children help strong arms and various "Tickler". Also, do not always go for the principle – sometimes a child can be and give, having bought the wretched machine, but only if the hysteria hasn't started yet. But if the baby went into a rage, to make concessions later, otherwise he will understand that tears and screaming can be achieved. In addition, it is very important that policy all family members were similar. A situation where the mother does not respond to the cries, and dad immediately rushes to do everything that requires a favorite child, able to make tantrums in the usual way of manipulation and tighten them very long.