Eyser system - benefit or harm
Did you know that the Eiser system exists only in the Russian language search engine. We consider this a Japanese method of raising children of preschool age. But any search engine on foreign sites does not find anything by the query "Aizer system". Wikipedia does not know such a thing either. And in Japan, in all likelihood, there is no such system. So the question arises involuntarily: “What is the Eyser education system?”
In Eastern countries, there is a certain policy of parents in the matter of the acquisition of life experience by children. This is reflected in their non-interference. For example, Japanese parents will not stop the fight, allowing the child to get their own social experience. Although as a result of using a policy of non-intervention, the Japanese consider their children to be the least well-bred in the world.
Our parents, adopting the experience of the Japanese, forget about the different mentality and social conditions. In addition, the Eyser system clearly exaggerates the need to lift prohibitions for children.
In Japan, it is not customary to limit children in their actions, as long as it does not harm the child himself or other people. Children are not taken to punish, depriving them of the usual pleasures, but the punishment in a milder form exists. The system of education is arranged in such a way that with age a person is clamped into an increasingly narrow framework of behavior.
We interpret this as the complete absence of prohibitions for children under 7 years of age. Imagine the situation that your child wanted to shove a piece of wire into an outlet, would you allow him that? I doubt it. And imagine that he falls in the middle of the store and requires a toy. He is entitled to it. You bring him up on this system. How do you like it?
To pamper and pamper a child is not the same thing. What will we achieve by allowing the child to do everything, as recommended by the Eyser system? The Internet is replete with examples of such parenting. I would not really like to be on the spot affected by such children. Parents, relieving themselves of responsibility, undoubtedly, greatly facilitate their lives. After all, it is much easier and more convenient to say that we are raising a child without prohibitions, than to teach him the proper behavior.
The Eyser system has an excellent replacement that fits exactly for each country and each parent. Do not forbid the child anything! Do not Cry! Do not scold him for trying to do something wrong! A child is a little MAN! Do you like bans or shouts at your address? Of course not. Let us then instead of the words “it is impossible to do this”, “do not dare to do this”, “do not do this” we will say “this is not good, because ...”. Each of us knows why something is bad or impossible, but the child still does not know it. Explain it to him. Use simple and understandable words for clarification, give examples and let the child look at the situation from the other side.
The child must learn not only from the experience of the parents. He must comprehend many things himself. But the rejection of the role of the parent in the upbringing, giving him the opportunity to do everything, can not be an excellent option. You must guide your child, explain to him, prevent acts that harm him and others. Do not prohibit! Help understand that doing so is not good!