How to raise a child: education, relationships, education, health
The birth of a child is an incredible happiness and a big responsibility. Disputes about raising children and caring for babies have been going on since time immemorial. Experienced teachers and pediatricians agree that it is easier to defend a thesis on how to raise and teach, rather than raise a single own child. And yet, what is most important in raising children? We will try to collect the most valuable tips and tricks on how to raise a child in one article.
Raise or grow a child?
Not all parents are fully aware of the responsibility that they assume when they decide to have children. For most young families, the most difficult task is to provide children with material and regular care for them in the first years of life. But in fact this is a big mistake. The roles of mothers and fathers parents will play throughout their lives. At the same time, the child needs the greatest support and attention of the family at least until graduation. Every conscious parent sincerely wishes only the best for his child. But remember that raising a child is necessary, guided not only by their own desires and dreams. It is useful right from the moment of birth of the baby to remember that he is a person, and after years he will become a full-fledged adult. The task of parents is to help their child grow up healthy and diversified, and not raise a son or daughter as a “good child.” Parenting is a daily process. Remember that for a baby his parents are the most important people in his life. Regardless of your own workload, devote a certain amount of time to your child every day. If you are tired - just chat or play. In no case do not ignore the baby and do not shift his education to third parties!
Psychological microclimate in the family
To implement the proper upbringing of the child, it is necessary to create a favorable basis. The first years of life the world for a baby is his family. Watching day after day how adults behave at home, how they relate to each other, the child forms his worldview. At the same time, due to the lack of life experience, the baby cannot rationally evaluate the actions of parents. Everything that they do seems to him to be definitely right, or at least normal. Remember: under no circumstances you can not swear and sort out the relationship with a child! It is desirable that the child, in principle, not faced with negative emotions and bad mood of their parents. Fulfill this condition is extremely difficult, but try never to get lost on the child. If you are very tired, upset or in pain, tell honestly about what happened to your son or daughter. Believe me, even at the age of 3-4 years, the baby will understand you. Without explaining the bad mood of the parents, the child may think that the reason is in him - and this is a serious moral injury. Daily communication, family traditions and holidays - this is what each of us needs, and children most of all. In a quiet, positive family, there are more chances to raise a happy and healthy child. Try to protect your baby from excessive information noise and bad news. Even fast and playful music for children is suitable exclusively for outdoor games and sports activities. It is absolutely unacceptable to watch “adult” programs, action films and other videos with a child that can harm the immature psyche.
Ideal environment for development
A preschooler child knows as much about the world as his parents managed to tell him. In the first years of life, the world of the baby is his room and apartment. Try to conveniently equip the space in which the child lives. Get toys and materials for creativity, suitable for the baby. The ideal rule for choosing children's things is to pay attention to their quality and variety, and not to quantity. Believe me, three different toys will be much more useful and more interesting than ten very similar to each other. A child’s room or a children's corner should “grow” with its owner. Replace the furniture if necessary, from time to time update the baby’s library and toys. Be sure to monitor the safety of the house, keep potentially dangerous objects in inaccessible to the child places.
Nutrition and physical development
Raising a child is not only raising him. Of great importance is the care of the baby and the maintenance of his health. In the first years of life, hygiene procedures are fully carried out by parents. But by the age of 4, the baby should be able to do a lot by himself: wash, wash hands, show off. Gradually, the child will learn to care for himself completely, but his parents will only have to remind from time to time about the implementation of some specific actions. The diet of the child also deserves attention. After a full transition to the "adult" products should be five meals, in which three meals will be the main, and two - snacks. Try to feed your child in a variety of ways, giving preference to healthy foods and products. It is equally important to pay enough attention to the physical development of the child. Do exercises every day, play outdoor games and take a walk in favorable weather. If you notice that the baby is paying increased attention to a particular type of physical activity, consider donating it to a suitable sports section.
The main thing - attention and love
In order to raise a worthy member of society and just a good person, it is not necessary to be a child psychologist. The main thing is to love your child and feel free to show it to him daily. Hug your baby whenever possible, encourage his progress and achievements. Treat your child with respect, always carefully listen to his stories and requests. Remember that the relationship with your son or daughter must be built from early childhood. The parent-child relationship is useful to replace with equal communication. Of course, we are talking about positive everyday communication. Playing with your child every day, having a training session with him in the form of a game, you form a solid foundation of trust for life. It is not necessary to raise the child by the method of categorical prohibitions, punishments and constant moralizing. If possible, talk with your baby on an equal footing, explaining everything "can" and "not." Believe me, this strategy is no less effective than the toughest discipline. Try to let your baby feel protected. What is family? “Parents + child” is the best formula, all participants of which should actively participate in each other’s life and resolve all difficulties that arise together.
The topic of early development is very popular among modern parents. How to teach a child at home what he should know before entering school? You should not completely shift the educational function to kindergarten or developmental courses. In the format of thematic lessons and lessons, the child does not learn much of what his parents can tell him during a normal conversation. Try as much as possible to talk with your baby about everything in the world from an early age. Listening to what questions children ask, you can learn a lot about their interests. The task of the parents is to support the child as actively as possible in the interesting activities and areas of knowledge. Who knows, perhaps from a young car lover, an outstanding designer will really grow up, and a fan of cute little animals will become an outstanding veterinarian. Spend time getting to know your kid with various kinds of art. Painting, sculpture, theatrical performances and music for children should be selected taking into account age and personal taste.
Often late children face a special relationship in the family. The most common problem is excessive care. In most families, the birth of babies over the age of thirty is a serious and planned event. Mature parents are responsible for their own health and strive to protect their baby from all potential dangers. So moms and dads should try to calm down. The basics of parenting must necessarily include the child's familiarity with safety rules. But remember, your baby is not a crystal vase at all. And if every third phrase you say to a child is a warning or a ban, it's time to correct your behavior. Mature parents should learn to communicate with their own baby on an equal footing, playing with him more often and more than indicating what and how is right. It would seem that all these problems should not be when late children are born in large families. But in this case, not everything is simple, because the younger ones often become favorites in the family. And grow up spoiled, feeling their own superiority. If there are several children, parents should try to evenly distribute their attention to all. It is important to bring up children in love to each other and responsiveness.
It’s hard to believe, but a few decades ago, families with one child were considered strange. Today, many parents do not even think about having children after the birth of their first child. How to organize education, if you have one child in the family? Very often, the only baby is raised in the same way as late children. Common mistakes of parents: hyper-care and excessive expectations. Child psychologists say that the only children in the family often have problems with peers. To prevent difficulties in this category, conditions should be created daily for the child to play with his peers. Walk on the same playground where your baby can make friends or enroll him in developmental courses. Very often, if one child is born in the family, the parents decide not to give it to kindergarten. But remember, you can do this only if the baby has enough friends in the yard or next door to his cousins and peers who you can see daily. Do not try to solve everything for the child, on the contrary, gradually parents should reduce their influence in all spheres of life. This parenting strategy will allow the child to grow up independent and responsible.
One of the most difficult and delicate questions - is it possible to raise a happy child in a family without a father? Nowadays, many women experience all the joys of motherhood without a husband, and sometimes in complete solitude. How to raise a child if dad is not in his life? The most important thing for a mother in this situation is to personally get rid of complexes connected with her own marital status. You can not pronounce the word "loneliness" and its variations. No matter how the circumstances - you are now at least two and you are already a family: mother and baby. It is very good if some kind of male relative can help in raising a child: an older brother, an uncle or a grandfather. But even if such a person is not in your environment, you should not be upset. For the full development of the child, mother will have to perform the functions of parents of both sexes. The best answer to the question: “How to raise a child without a father and keep up with everything myself?” - from time to time imagine what an ideal father would do. Develop your child comprehensively, do not be lazy with him to play sports and play outdoor games. If the kid really wants to do some kind of "male" business - get him the appropriate toys, organize a trip to a football match or fishing. In fact, raising a child to one mom is not so difficult. The most important thing is love and the desire to give the baby all the essentials.
We are raising a successful child!
Every third person in adulthood suffers from complexes acquired in childhood. Just think about this figure! But where do all these psychological problems come from, if initially all parents want their kids only good? When thinking about how to teach a child and develop, not all of us think about “such trifles” as everyday communication. Try to remember and learn a few simple rules. Never compare your child with other children, especially if the comparison is not in his favor. Critical estimates have no place in the process of home schooling and creative activities. Remember how happy you were when the kid learned to walk. Could you scold him or criticize him for taking the first steps imperfectly? It is also necessary to behave in the development of any other activities. Is your baby unevenly coloring? Offer him one more coloring, and be sure to praise the imperfect. Remind your child as often as possible that you love him, regardless of his success or behavior. Remember that it is possible to underestimate the self-esteem of a little person to zero without noticing it. It will take a lot of effort to restore it.