Tantrums in children
Almost all parents face tantrums in children. Many of them sometimes lose all patience and have no idea how to be in a given situation. That is why they are asked questions about what to do if a child rolls tantrums. Let's figure it out.
Tantrums in children most often begin at the age of 1.5-2 years. The kid, who literally yesterday was a cute little angel, turns into a capricious stubborn girl who can bring parents to a white-hot. In fairness it should be said that the child does not always demonstrate such behavior. Very often, hysterics in children are provoked by poor health, fatigue, and emotional overload. For example, if a baby does not feel well, he can throw a tantrum literally out of the blue, whereas in his normal state he could be easily distracted or switched to something else. Therefore, you should not keep a tired, hungry or sick kid in the store (by mail, etc.). It is also very important to dose emotions and impressions, even the most positive ones. If the entertainment program is excessively saturated (for example, a puppet theater, and then a trip to the zoo or to the rides), the tot may end up being capricious simply from an excess of feelings, or rather from emotional fatigue.
Very often, tantrums in children occur in crowded places: shops, public transport. And in this case, parents have a particularly hard time, because they are subject to condemnation of others. The most important thing in this situation is to calm down, stop winding yourself up and not paying attention to passersby who advise you to take the baby in your arms, give it to the pope, or buy a car for the unfortunate child. It is best to bring (carry out) the child on the street and give him the opportunity to recover. However, to scold him in this state is simply meaningless, for the beginning, the baby needs to calm down.
Tantrums in children are not only tears and screams. Many kids are excellent at skating on the floor, falling and knocking their feet, not forgetting to vote. Some toddler go even further and beat on the floor or wall with their heads, pull their hair, scratch their face and even cause vomiting (the latter, fortunately, happens quite rarely). Sometimes babies turn blue when crying. In principle, hysterics in children is a completely normal phenomenon, but if they occur too often and for no reason, and are also accompanied by some alarming symptoms, you should show the crumbs to a competent neurologist.
If a child rolls tantrums, what should parents do? As already mentioned, first of all, you should calm down and remember that almost all toddlers pass through it. Secondly, it is necessary to deprive the baby of the opportunity to play in public (ideally, it is best to leave him alone, if this is possible, of course). Because persuasion in this situation is practically powerless, the child simply will not hear them. And after the baby calms down, you should talk with him about the situation, analyze his behavior, voicing his feelings (“you were upset because we didn’t buy the machine”), and explain that such an expression of emotions is unacceptable (“even if you were upset , shouting on the whole street should not have been "). From time to time one can play scenes with the help of favorite toys of the toddler, reciting the situation again and again and showing him how to act in this or that case (right and wrong).
Tantrums in children can try to warn. As soon as the crumb begins to act up, it needs to be redirected to perform any actions (“look what a beetle”, “bring me that pack of juice”). Strong hugs and various “tickles” help some children. Also, do not always go on the principle - sometimes the child can and give way, buying this most ill-fated machine, but only if the tantrum has not yet begun. And if the baby has already entered into a rage, it is too late to make concessions, otherwise he will understand that with tears and crying, a lot can be achieved. In addition, it is very important that the policies of all family members be similar. Situations where mom does not respond to shouts, and dad immediately rushes to do everything that his beloved child requires, are able to make tantrums in the usual way of manipulation and tighten them for a very long time.