If a child sleeps with his parents, how can we wean him? Fundamental rules
When a baby is born, every mother tries to give her child all the best. And it's not just about things. And then parents often tend to forget about themselves and completely switch to the baby.
About a shared dream
In fact, there is nothing wrong or good in the fact that the child is sleeping with his parents. How to wean the crumb of this? This is a question that can arise after the first year of life, when the baby grew up and became more independent, his sleep was completely adjusted, and my mother decided to move him into his crib. However, here comes the problem of habituation. The child is old enough to understand what is happening, he begins to resist this. How to do everything right, without hurting your little girl?
Rule 1. Time
If a child sleeps with his parents, how can we wean him? First tip: choose the right time. If the mother and baby have been practicing joint sleep since birth, according to the advice of psychologists, to send the crumb to their bed is not until the age of three when he becomes independent and begins to identify himself as a separate person from the parent. However, these terms are not strict. They can move both in one direction and in the other direction. As for the period, you do not need to move the child to your crib during illness, tooth growth or other troubled period (the birth of a sister brother, moving, etc.), because at this time the baby is already so hard.
Rule 2. Words
What to do next if the child is sleeping with parents? How to wean the crumb of this? In this situation, the baby needs to explain why Mom does it. It is necessary to present to the child arguments on age so that he understood them without problems. With any baby you can agree, only you have to be able to do it.
Rule 3. Sleeper
How else can you change the situation if the child is sleeping with the parents? How to wean your child off this? It is necessary to properly prepare a sleeping place for crumbs. It should be comfortable, beautiful, and most importantly - like the child. Only then will the baby have an interest, a desire to try something new. In this case, the transfer of the child to his or her bed can be painless.
Rule 4. Mom near
How do children sleep with their parents? Side by side, constantly being in contact is skin-to-skin. And at first the field of resettlement to the kid can it is strong to be missed. Therefore, the mother should always be there. However, now a full contact of the whole body will be replaced, say, by one hand. If the baby whines at night, mom should not immediately grab him in her arms to calm her. It will be enough to reach out and stroke the crumb on the back. So the baby will seem that his mother is like and next, but they will be sleeping separately.
Rule 5. Substitute
Why does the child sleep with their parents? So mother in the first year of life of crumbs is much easier to cope with his unconfined night sleep, breastfeed, calm him. The kid gets used to the fact that his beloved parent is always with him. Therefore, during the resettlement of the child in his crib, you can try to find a substitute for the mother - give him some kind of toy so that he can sleep with her.
Rule 6. Taboo
And I really want to ask parents who want to move the baby to their crib, do not frighten the crumb with unnecessary stories and scary stories. Also, do not go for the trick, laying the baby next to him in the evening, and then shifting it to your crib. So a child can lose confidence in parents, and this is fraught with a complicated process of falling asleep. You also do not need to take drastic measures, forcing the baby to fall asleep on its own, just turning off the light and leaving the room. This way of laying the children is not so easy, and after a joint sleep is generally unacceptable.